Don’t Should Yourself!

Does this sound familiar to you?

  • I should get this or that done today.
  • I should go to this event/function/family occasion.
  • I should have done this or that.

How does it make you feel? Do you think that kind of statement is good for your well-being or not?

What about if you changed it to:

  • I could do this today as I choose to do it.
  • I could decide not to go to that event/function/family occasion and that would be okay.
  • I could have done that but as I didn’t I can now let that go.

How does this make you feel? Is this statement good for your well-being or not?

When we use the word ‘should’ we put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves as it doesn’t allow for any leniency and is dis-empowering. It also usually comes from demands outside ourselves. By this I mean that we think we ‘should’ be doing or behaving in a certain way.

When we use the word ‘could’ it is in fact giving us a choice which means that you get to choose what you want to do rather than doing something because you think you should do it and is more self-empowering.


Are you willing to drop the ‘should’ in your sentence and replace it with ‘could’? How would that feel to you? Is it scary? Try giving it a go and see how that fits with you. Do you feel better using a more empowering word like ‘could’? Let us know how you got on and do remember to give yourself a big pat on the back if you gave it a try.




Want to have well-being in your life and interested in engaging in Well-being
Coaching with Cheryl?

Please visit for further information

If you would like to receive a weekly uplift into your inbox just sign up here: My weekly ‘Words of Wellbeing’ is designed to uplift and inspire you to feel more well-being and happiness in your life.


About cheryledwardshomeopath

As a Homeopath/Holistic Therapist with over 15years experience I have seen numerous clients with various ailments who have benefited from the range of therapies I use which include Homeopathy, Australian Bush Flower Essences, Indian Head Massage and nutritional advice. As a specialist Recovery Coach for ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia I work to assist those suffering from these ailments reclaim their health, strength and energy in order to live a full and active life. I also coach individuals who feel they are not living the life they envisaged to reach their full potential and realize their dreams.
This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s