When you say you can’t do something you are actually limiting your abilities and depreciating yourself at the same time.
When you say you can’t do something you are limiting your possibilities and restricting your growth.
For example ‘I can’t have sugar in my tea any more as I’m trying to lose weight’. This dis-empowering message to your brain weakens your resolve as it’s taking away your sense of control.
However when you use the word ‘don’t’ you are actually empowering yourself because you are stating a choice. So if you say ‘I don’t take sugar in my tea any more’ or ‘ I don’t smoke’, it is a more positive statement and a more enabling one. It strengthens your resolve and allows you to feel more in control of your choices, your life and your well-being.
It will also feel more supportive to you as you focus on breaking those negative habits we were talking about a few weeks ago. You can use it to keep up the spring cleaning of the mind. How would it feel to say ‘ I don’t focus on that break up anymore’, or ‘I don’t worry about getting that promotion’.
The words we use resonate with our feelings of well-being. Using words with negative connotations bring us down. We need to be aware of our inner self talk.
You have a choice of which words you use. Be aware of automatic responses. Even if you said ‘can’t’ quickly correct yourself and say ‘no I don’t do this or that anymore’. Remember to congratulate yourself when you use the word ‘Don’t’ instead of ‘can’t’.
How does that feel? You may need to practice a few times before the word ‘can’t’ gets replaced with ‘don’t’. Let us know how you are doing with this change of language and mindset.
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