When we do things often enough our brains turns it into a habit and this becomes habitual as we perform them without thinking. This can be anything from smoking to brushing your teeth to the way we make our tea. When something is repeated long enough we do it on autopilot.
This goes for anything whether we class it as good or bad.
However we really only talk about our ‘bad’ habits right? I bite my nails, I must have a cigarette with my coffee or I have a bad habit of going to the fridge immediately after eating my dinner looking for something sweet. When we focus on the negative we diminish our feelings of well-being. Habits don’t even need to be classed as good or bad, it’s just our thinking that compartmentalises them.
But, because we do that, we need to focus on the more positive habits or look at the ways to overcome a bad habit and then we can start feeling better about ourselves.
Remember what I said about your willpower and how you get to reset your willpower each morning? Could applying your willpower to change a ‘bad’ habit be something that you could take on? Maybe there’s something in that old saying if you don’t succeed the first time try, try, and try again?
What would you like to have another look at? What ‘bad’ habit have you tried to stop but then gave up? Maybe you could look at it again, get good advice or support to help you focus and reset your willpower to having a more successful outcome?
Visualising is a helpful tool. Here’s a simple example: Try sitting relaxed in a chair and watch yourself having that cup of coffee without a cigarette, or piece of cake, maybe read a book for distraction. Visualising doing the ‘good’ habit helps you to feel better. Does it look more obtainable when you look at it with fresh eyes? How does that feel now? Do you need to try that again? Whatever you decide to do remember to be easy on yourself. Giving up a detrimental habit doesn’t need to feel like you’re climbing a mountain.