Are you getting anxious as to whether he will buy you flowers or book a Valentine’s Day dinner? Are you waiting for the person you love to remember to show the right token of their love? And are you already planning how you are going to feel on the day if you don’t get the things you’ve been told to expect?
Do we really need to be told that it’s only on this one special day that your special someone has to declare their love for you or vice versa with material things? What about the other 364 days? And what does this do for your feelings of well-being?
In these days of mass media overload we have to be careful not to get into a muddle over what’s important and what isn’t. And it’s nothing to do with being unromantic. On a made up day like this one it is worth noticing if we are buying into the hype and longing for an outward display of love, or feel anxious if we are not in a relationship. This causes all kind of stresses and strains in your psyche and in your body. Instead why not use this Valentine’s Day to work on developing a more meaningful connection to those we love.
Isn’t it more natural to show love and appreciation for those you love more spontaneously? Whether it is your partner, a close friend or a family member, try showing your love and appreciation regularly, finding ways that feel right to you. When we get into the flow of feeling love for that special someone or indeed all the people we love we get to feel really good about ourselves and that boosts a sense of well-being.
As you begin to show love more spontaneously notice how it comes back to you.
We can move away from an artificial commercial day that is loaded with a lot of negative connotations and move towards a broader more meaningful loving relationship. It’s better for your sense of well-being and therefore your health. Notice how your sense of wellbeing and good feelings multiply this Valentine’s Day when you focus on showing love rather than expected grand gestures. Why not try it and see?