Were you taught, like me and like most of us are, to look after everyone else first before you dare to look after yourself? It is startling how ingrained this way of thinking is. Yet when we listen to the safety instructions on board a flight we are told to put on our oxygen masks first before we assist others, even small children.
What good could we do if we are running out of oxygen trying to help someone else get their supply?
Yet that is exactly what we do in life. We give nearly all of ourselves to others, in relationships, with our family, friends and our jobs. So what is left over for ourselves? Often very little.
So forget the idea that it is selfish to look after the number one person in your life (and if you haven’t guessed by now, that’s you).
And do what you need to recoup, recharge and rebalance.
Your health and wellbeing depends on it.
Notice when you catch yourself thinking that you really don’t want to do something but feel you have to, and think about how you can prioritise your own needs- whether it is going home and having a long bath rather than staying for another drink because you don’t want to seem unsociable; leaving that piece of work until tomorrow and just going home to spend time with the children before bed, or going for a walk at lunch rather being chained to your desk.
Give yourself a huge pat on the back for being able to take some small step towards that this week.